How do you deal with a partner who is a perfectionist?
How do you deal with a partner who is a perfectionist?
Advice for partners on how to live with a perfectionist:
- Get curious and really understand what makes your partner tick.
- Communicate.
- Don’t take it personally.
- Stand up for yourself and set clear boundaries.
- Share your feelings.
- Give her/him lots of notice regarding change.
- Give feedback gently.
Can perfectionism affect relationships?
A perfectionist may avoid talking about personal fears, inadequacies, insecurities, and disappointments with others, even to those with whom they are closest. Naturally, this greatly limits emotional intimacy in a marriage. Perfectionist individuals can also be fiercely competitive, even with their partners.
Are perfectionists hard to live with?
Perfectionist individuals can also be fiercely competitive, even with their partners. Feelings of inadequacy may set the stage for downward social comparison within their own homes (“At least I’m more successful than my wife is”).
What are the signs of a perfectionist?
Common Traits of a Perfectionist
- All-or-Nothing Thinking. Perfectionists, like high achievers, tend to set high goals and work hard toward them.
- Highly Critical.
- Pushed by Fear.
- Unrealistic Standards.
- Focussed on Results.
- Fear of Failure.
- Procrastination.
- Defensiveness.
What are perfectionist tendencies?
While high achievers take pride in their accomplishments and tend to be supportive of others, perfectionists tend to spot mistakes and imperfections. They hone in on imperfections and have trouble seeing anything else. They’re more judgmental and hard on themselves and on others when “failure” does occur.
What are the traits of a perfectionist?
To help you assess your level of perfectionism, here are 11 signs of a perfectionist I’ve identified:
- There is no room for mistakes.
- You have a very specific manner in which things should be done.
- You have an all-or-nothing approach.
- It’s all about the end result.
- You are extremely hard on yourself.
How do you deal with a controlling perfectionist?
Knowing how to effectively navigate with a perfectionist colleague is an important skill on a work team.
- Recognize the Value. One of the most important things you can do when dealing with any colleague is to recognize her strengths and contributions.
- Be a Coach.
- Choose a Strategy.
- Speak Your Mind.
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