Why do people say your mean?

Think about why you act mean. Many people are mean to others in order to feel better about themselves. Your ego feels threatened, so you are mean as a form of defense. You envy someone else’s life or accomplishments, so you want to hurt them. You are projecting your own negative feelings about yourself on someone else.

How do you be nice when you’re mean?

Here are a variety of nice ways to deal with mean people, that can lessen or diffuse the mean-ness.

1. Swap negativity for positivity. Shutterstock.
2. Focus on what you can control. Shutterstock.
3. There’s an app for that.
4. Breathe mindfully.
5. Kill ’em with kindness.
6. Call them out on it.
7. Zig when they zag.
8. Know when to fold ’em.

What does it mean when people say your too nice?

When people tell you that you are “too nice”, they are really saying something else. It’s sometimes easier for others to label the problem as being “too nice”, rather than to bluntly tell you that you are coming off as: Insecure, dependent, needy, clingy, or desperate.

Is being to nice a disorder?

Like I said, there is no textbook condition or diagnosis for being too nice. But there are a few “symptoms” or trademark descriptors that connotate being a people pleaser (in the negative sense). The first and most obvious is self-neglect. We’ve already discussed how people pleasers are incredibly nice people.

Is being to nice a bad thing?

It actually is a desirable human trait. However, some people (for various reasons) are overly nice; they will be at the beck and call of everyone, put up with abuse and disrespect, and always put their well-being aside for others. Being overly nice has tremendous and long-lasting negative effects.

What mental illness causes meanness?

Learn About Intermittent Explosive Disorder Intermittent explosive disorder (IED) is an impulse-control disorder characterized by sudden episodes of unwarranted anger. The disorder is typified by hostility, impulsivity, and recurrent aggressive outbursts.